My parents lived in Wyoming and internet for them was not readily available. I talked to my parents about getting a computer, but my dad would always say, what is the point? I would talk about all the benefits of the Internet and other things I THOUGHT he might like, but he always came back and would say, I don’t need it. I have everything at my disposal that I need.
As I think about that, he is right. 32 years ago as a newly married man, my wife and I did not need the computer or the Internet. Cell phones were not going yet and we did just fine. Really the computer is a want and so are cell phones. To the day that dad and mom passed away, they did just fine with out them.
Of course here I am, on the computer and on the Internet.
When I moved mom and dad here, I sold dad on doing E-mail at least. I talked about the speed and how fast you can connect to all your grandchildren and great-grandchildren. I created an email account and showed him how to log in and write a letter. We talked about URL’s and that was way over his head. So I had to break it down to more simple terms that he was used to. I said, Dad when you mail a letter to me you put on the front of the envelope my address right? Yes, he said. Great well, URL’s are an address for you to deliver mail to just like an address is on the front of a letter. Except, what you type in, and send gets there in seconds, not days. (Hence the Post Office is suffering.) Isn’t that amazing? I said. Well, yes but a letter still does the same thing, and I really don’t mind waiting, he replied.
My dad had the best penmanship, it was very easy to read and each letter was concise with the previous one. It was more than legible, it was very professional looking. He wrote a lot of letters.
Anyway, we set up the email, I wrote down how to get into email (Just click on an Icon) and the computer remembered his passwords, and he was in. Then I put all the URL’s into the address section, and all he had to do was type in a first name at the top and it would pick up the receivers info. Simple? Yes for me it was. But dad could not remember the concept.
Everyday, I would go over and say, did you check your email to see who wrote you? No, I forgot how to get in. Well, I said, lets go over it again, Okay? Sure, he said and I would do it again.
I did this for about two weeks. Finally, after that time frame, I gave up. It was the same thing just a different day. He loved reading the emails sent to him by family, but he could not grab the computer/Internet concept. Period. I could be labeled the worse computer/Internet instructor ever lived. UNTIL, I ran across some friends of mine who expressed the same concern.
So this is what I did, I would go in and read the email to dad, and then he would dictate to me what he wanted to say and I would type it in. That went well for awhile, but one day I went in and said do you want to read the emails? No, I don’t, he said. I said, oh,… well… what can I do to help you. Nothing, he replied as he gets up, walks over to the kitchen counter and picks up about 5 letters he had written that morning. This is the best way, right here, he said, and that is what I am going to do. Okay, I said.
I realized later that writing the letters was the best way for him. He took the time, he had done it for years, and why change now at 80 years old. Occasionally, I would take him the laptop and bring up stories of WWII and things about ships or planes. Then he loved the computer. He would sit there for hours and look at pictures or stories about WWII and then he would start telling me more about the era and what he went through as a WWII veteran. I wished that I would have recorded those moments, but I didn’t and they are only a memory for me and me alone.
My parents had a cabin in the Wyoming mountains, the same mountains that dad lived in several times as a boy. It was 20 acres of wonderful tall pines, great fishing, clean air, fresh mountain water, awesome storms, beautiful wildlife, tons of places to hike, no Internet, no TV, an occasional radio station and memories galore.
One thing that he was absolutely right about…we really don’t need these….computers. He and mom did great without it.